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Revirginization

In Men's Sexuality, Relationships, Sexy in Vancity Radio, Women's Sexuality, Womens Health on July 22, 2010 at 12:42 pm

Several decades ago, Madonna coined the phrase Like a Virgin.  Five years ago, doctors in LA took that literally.  Women started booking appointment for hymenoplasty. According to Dr. Faizal H Sahukhan, PHD women started getting the operation as a gift to their husbands. In South Asian cultures this surgery is performed for different reasons.

In the western world, many men value experience. In South Asian cultures, there is a high value placed on virginity. In the case of arranged marriage, famillies will go through great lengths to recreate virginity before that marriage takes place. A few weeks ago, the Province ran a story letting Vancouverites know this is happening in our  home town.

You can download the podcast for last night’s in depth discussion about Revirginalization right here.

Asian Men Dating In Vancouver

In Relationships, Sexy in Vancity Radio on July 15, 2010 at 12:27 pm

People wonder why it is difficult to date in Vancouver. In our multicultural city, there is Many times it is difficult for people to figure out if they are actually on a date. According to  Man Meets Woman’s Ronald Lee Vancouver does not have a dating culture.  Ronald and  Conversation Art’s Vincent Ng chat about some of the issues Asian men face dating in Vancouver.  This inspired their www.vancouverasianmen.com workshops.  Key topics include:

  • Differences between Asian men’s concept of dating from Generation X to Generation Y
  • Lack of Male Asian role models portrayed in mainstream media.
  • Family focus on education and career BEFORE dating.
  • Attitude differences between Canadian Chinese born here and immigrated in regards to dating.
  • Concepts of where marriage and sex fit into the picture.
  • Man’s responsibility to keep the romance flowing after the honeymoon phase.
  • Hiding behind the computer and learning to socialize in person.
  • Lack of dating culture in Vancouver.
  • Mixed relationships.
  • Online relationships
  • Creating vintage love

You can listen to this episode right here.

Embracing Sexuality through Singledom, Coupledom & Post Babydom

In Men's Sexuality, Relationships, Sexy in Vancity Radio, Women's Sexuality on July 8, 2010 at 2:18 pm

Last night we talked to sex and relationship coach, Kim Anami about embracing sexuality through singledom, coupledom & post babydom.  Engaging chat which you can download right here.

Shine!

In Events, Relationships, Sexy in Vancity Radio on June 10, 2010 at 3:44 pm

Might need to take a jaunt over the border to see Shine, the burlesque musical created in Vancouver

If you missed the sexy burlesque musical last summer, you need to cross border watch this soon to be cult classic created in Vancouver. Winner of the Vancouver Ovation Award for “Outstanding New Work”, Shine is the creation of the Internationally-acclaimed comedy cabaret duo The Wet Spots (John Woods and Cass King).

Last year during the creation process, they appeared on Sexy in Vancity Radio with the Screaming Chicken Duo, Melody Mangler and Norm Elmore chatting about the process of couples working together. You can listen to the episode right here.

 This production is a collaboration with Theatre Off Jackson and the Seattle Erotic Art Festival. SHINE: A Burlesque Musical  runs from July 8 to 18, 2010 at the Theatre Off Jackson. Tickets on Sale Now at http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/111305

Live A Life You Love

In empowerment, Relationships, Sexy in Vancity Radio on June 10, 2010 at 11:11 am

Dr. Susan Biali joined me for last night’s edition of Sexy in Vancity Radio to chat about her book Live A Life You Love. Some of the key points that came up during the interview were:

 Make sure your life plan you are following is actually your plan not what other people want for you.

Giving yourself permission to play.

Dating in Vancouver.

Finding your passion for your life and opening yourself up to the possibility of adding a romantic partner to that mix.

How to keep love growing during long term relationships. Avoiding the 7 year itch.

Giving yourself and your partner permission and support  to evolve into the gorgeous and wonderful human being that they are.

Letting that person continue to be the person you fell in love with. Not taking someone for granted.

Roles of men and women in relationships.

Taking note what we can learn from how  other cultures celebrate what makes women women and honoring what makes men men.

Home work – Working through the work books for Live A Life You Love with Your partner.

What we should teach our children to empower them as they grow into adults.

Give permission to explore what your “north star” is.

And much more. You can listen to the podcast right here.

    Dr. Susan Biali on Sexy in Vancity Radio

    In Contests, empowerment, Relationships, Sexy in Vancity Radio on June 9, 2010 at 10:17 am
    Many of us live in the 9 to 5 world. We spend 8 hours a day doing work that is not fulfilling. We keep checking the clock to see how much longer we have to wait until the day ends. When we come home we are exhausted. We might plunk ourselves down in front of the computer for another four hours of chatting online. The thought of  having to do it all over again tomorrow might make one feel like not getting out of bed. If many of us in Vancouver chose to live this life, is it any wonder why the most common complaint about Vancouverites is “there is no one to date.”
     
    Dating starts with self discovery. If you don’t know who you are and spend your days doing things that don’t make you happy, you might choose to date for the wrong reasons. It makes us feel alive when we are in lust or in love. Perhaps that sense of vitality should start with taking a good look in the mirror and seeing who looks back at you.

    Dr. Susan Biali chats about how to Live a Life You Love - including time for romantic partners and yourself on tonight's edition of Sexy in Vancity Radio on 101.9FM CITR

     
    Are you a 9-5er? Are you hiding behind your high stress job and hectic social life? Do you spend  your days self-medicating with your morning cup of coffee and your night-time bottle of wine? I think regardless whether we are in a relationship, searching for love, and continually evolving ourselves, we are always searching for balance in our lives. Keeping balance in mind, what do we need to do to live a life we love?
     
    You can find out tonight by tuning into Sexy in Vancity Radio on 101.9FM CITR at 10pm. Special guest, Dr. Susan Biali will be chatting about the 7 steps we can choose to take to live a life we love for ourselves and for our romantic partners.
     
     On this week’s edition of Sexy in Vancity Radio on 101.9FM, Dr. Susan Biali chats to listeners about how to Live a Life You Love, find balance in your life and how to include a romantic relationship without losing yourself. We are giving away a copy of her best-selling book Live a Life You Love 7 Steps to a More Healthier Happier More Passionate You. To enter please leave a comment on this post about balancing life and relationships or RT @sexyinvancity  Giveaway: Dr. Susan Biali’s Live a Life You Love.
    You must do this Before 10:30pm on Wednesday, June 9th and be listening to Sexy in Vancity on 101.9FM to find out if you are the winner.
    Tune into Sexy in Vancity Radio on 101.9FM CITR on Wednesday nights at 10pm PST. Listen Live right here.

    Shy Guys & and Gals

    In Events, Relationships on June 8, 2010 at 4:50 pm

    Personally I have always found shy guys adorable. Perhaps that is because I grew up listening to Bananarama. 

    For those who find shy guys & gals adorable, they will be gathering in Vancouver on June 13th. That’s when The Vancouver Dating Guide presents Overcoming Shyness and Social Anxiety to Meet the Person of Your Dreams is happening.  In our fast food culture it is easy to hide behind the computer and not leave the house. Even though you can still meet people via online dating  it is nice to meet other shy people and realize you might not be the only one who feels shy or deals with social anxiety. 

    Here are the details:

    Vancouver, BC, June 7th, 2010 – Most people experience a little shyness in their day to day routines. Sometimes it keeps them from participating in social situations, from voicing their real concerns, and most sadly, from approaching the man or woman of their dreams.
    The truth is, many shy men are exactly the kind of men women look for. But since they’re too timid, women get left with the swaggering jerks they always complain about but seem to date exclusively.
    And no matter how interested he was in the beginning, men get bored easily when dating shy women.
    If you find yourself a little shy or socially anxious, you can overcome this with a few tips to get you started. Once you learn an approach that works you will be ready to overcome shyness, enjoy a fuller life and possibly, just maybe, meet that one special person.
    On June 13th, at 2:00pm, please join a panel of communication and relationship experts as they discuss how to overcome shyness and social anxiety so you can create healthy relationships with the men and women you are attracted to.

    The panelists for this event are:
    Vincent Ng of Conversation Arts (http://www.conversationarts.com)
    Agatha Kasprzak of Happy Sexy You (http://www.happysexyyou.com)
    Gurpreet Chahil of Man Meets Woman (http://www.manmeetswoman.com)
    Moderated by Giovanni Amenta of Pink and Grey Image Consulting (http://www.pinkandgrey.ca)
    DETAILS
    What: Overcome Shyness and Social Anxiety to Meet the Person of Your Dreams
    Who: Panel of Speakers
    Where: YWCA Hotel, 733 Beatty St (by Georgia)
    When: June 13th 2:00pm
    Cost: $10

    How to RSVP: All are welcome! Audience members MUST RSVP at www.dateology.ca

    Contest: Live A Life You Love

    In Contests, empowerment, Relationships, Sexy in Vancity Radio on June 7, 2010 at 8:45 am
    Dr. Susan Biali will be chatting to Sexy in Vancity listeners about living a life they love and finding time to balance a healthy relationship this Wednesday at 10pm on 101.9FM CITR

    Last weekend Dr. Susan Biali inspired the audience at the WOW (www.thewowevent.com) last weekend. Flamenco music silenced the room full of 700 women and drew them to look at the beautiful dark haired woman dancing towards the front of the room.

    Dr. Susan Biali knows how to make an entrance. She stood in front of the microphone as the music faded. The audience listened to her inspirational story of how life can give you what you want. We just need to be ready to listen for the clues.
    On this week’s edition of Sexy in Vancity Radio on 101.9FM, Dr. Susan Biali chats to listeners about how to Live a Life You Love, find balance in your life and how to include a romantic relationship without losing yourself.
    To enter please leave a comment on this post about balancing life and relationships or RT @sexyinvancity  Giveaway: Dr. Susan Biali’s Live a Life You Love.
    You must do this Before 10:30pm on Wednesday, June 9th and be listening to Sexy in Vancity on 101.9FM to find out if you are the winner.
    Tune into Sexy in Vancity Radio on 101.9FM CITR on Wednesday nights at 10pm PST. Listen Live right here.

    Mysterious Woman

    In empowerment, Relationships on June 4, 2010 at 9:32 am

    Sometimes it is nice to step into someone else’s shoes. When we attempt to walk in Miu Miu stilettos, our shoulders blades slide into place, breasts perk up, and our backs arch back. Our calves muscles morph into tightened and lengthened curves.Its completely different when slipping into your best friends sneakers. With the Nike Air cushioning, we  bounce like cheerleaders before we drink our morning Starbucks. Sometimes the act of slipping on someone else’s shoes means we create a completely different persona.

    This afternoon, I read one of my twitter friend’s stories. In the story, she talked about how we create different personas when we go out. Boy meets girl. Girl chose not to tell him her real name or what she did for a living. Instead of being evasive, she lied. In a small town like Vancity, it was plausible that he could walk  into the bar where she works.  Surprised then outraged, he proceeded to spend the next five hours blabbing his “poor me” story to her coworkers.

    Her tale did not mention if she called the police.  She could have.  Harassment is not particularly sexy. Yes she lied to him. She did not deserve to be punished in that manner. If she had picked up the “freak” feeling when she met him the previous evening, I can understand why she wouldn’t want to reveal anything about herself.  

    All of us meet people we find attractive. All of us meet people who find us attractive. Sometimes the attraction is not reciprocated.  Sometimes we lie about who we are and how we feel about someone because we do not want to hurt the other person. A lie may buy us time to escape. If the lie is discovered by the person who believed it to be true, ego and feelings might be bruised. If there is someone we meet that we are not interested in, it is better to be up front about it. There is no point wasting his time or yours. You are too wonderful to waste your time pretending to be something that you are not.  To quote Aretha Franklin is it all about Respect.

    That being said, there is no reason why you can’t explore the possibility of seeing who you want to be. Perhaps a different stage might be used to explore those options.

    Venus on Fire Mars on Ice

    In Men's Health, Men's Sexuality, Relationships, Sexy in Vancity Radio, Women's Sexuality, Womens Health on June 3, 2010 at 10:55 am

    All I can say is wow! Last night Dr. John Gray who coined the phrase “Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus” and wrote the international best-selling book all about it talked about the differences between men and women and his new book, Venus on Fire Mars on Ice.  We talked about how our fast food culture has spiked our stress levels and how this affects our relationships and our health.

    With sincerity and humour, Gray talks about how men and women can balance their hormones. Hormonal balance – the key to life, love and energy.

    On a personal note, I told him when I watched Sex in the City 2 on Monday night with my gal pals, I couldn’t stop thinking about his book and just how accurate he was. In Sex and the City 2, Big gets Carrie a big, flat screen TV for their 2nd anniversary. Carrie asks one of the frequently asked questions,” Why do men need to watch TV?”

    In Gray’s book, he explains that watching TV helps men relax their muscles and replenish their testosterone levels. There are several studies that support men’s need to unwind in front of the flat screen.  Perhaps TV is the modern-day man’s version of bat cave time. Maybe if women can understand that this is a benefit to men’s health, maybe we can stop judging their need for TV. By not taking it personally when he wants to watch TV, we can honour ourselves and our men.

    In the same token, research shows that shopping is one of the ways women can restore their oxytocin levels. If men and women are able to recognize our differences and try not to make men women or turn women into men, our relationships can give us more fulfillment. Of course it starts with taking care of ourselves.

    Yoga, eating super foods and developing strong communication skills are ways we can not only survive but flourish with life, love and energy. Gray’s Venus on Fire Mars on Ice has a list of super foods that can benefit us. On the show he mentioned many health food stores in Canada carry Venus Calm to benefit women and for men Mars Revived.

    Listen to the show right here.

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