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Vancouver Pride Continues

In Men's Sexuality, Sexy in Vancity Radio, Uncategorized, Women's Sexuality on August 6, 2010 at 2:36 pm

I had so much fun celebrating VanPride2010 last Sunday. I was thrilled to check out Raul Pacheco-Vega’s photo stream on flickr. He captures tons of pictures of the CITR Crew broadcasting live. My favourite of course is the photo he took of the two of us.

Smiling pretty with the handsome, Mr. Raul Pacheco-Vega. Multi-talented Raul posed and took this picture.

Although the parade is over, pride continues on. It is a great opportunity to cuddle up, nibble on popcorn and check out some great movies at the  Vancouver Queer Film Festival

I was thrilled to discover the Sexy in Vancity podcast with the unstopable Conni Smudge is yours to download. Although Conni and I didn’t get to swap microphones as she emceed the parade for the 3rd year in a row and I broadcasted from the parade.

CITR 101.9FM Volunteers Broadcasting Live at Pride. Photo by Raul Pacheco-VegaCITR and Mint Records Volunteers Celebrating VanPride 2010 with Live BroadCast Photo by Raul Pacheco-VegaRaul Pacheco-Vega joins me on the CITR 101.9FM and Mint Records Float for pride. Photo by Raul Pacheco-Vega

Women’s Anatomy of Arousal Podcast

In Sexy in Vancity Radio, Women's Sexuality, Womens Health on August 6, 2010 at 11:42 am

Women\’s Anatomy of Arousal with Sheri Winston

A few weeks ago, Dr. Faizal Sakurhan was on our show chatting about hymenoplasty. This week’s edition of Sexy in Vancity Radio took that topic to a deeper level. On Wednesday night, Sheri Winston, author of Women’s Anatomy of Arousal and I chatted about how designer vagina surgeries are on the rise. Although the internet has brought sexuality into our homes, pornography addiction is on the rise. With our society’s exposure to pornography, women are becoming more aware of how we “should” look. As Sheri said, “Porn is for entertainment not education.”

I was thrilled when I mentioned Nick Karras’ book Petals which features black and white photographs of 48 vulvas (each looking beautiful yet different than the last), Sheri laughed as she had a copy of the book open in front of her.  I applauded her in her book Women’s Anatomy of  Arousal has the anatomy maps and pictures of vulvas in different shapes and sizes.

This edition of Sexy in Vancity Radio talks about:

Solo Sex

Sexual Education

Designer Vaginas

Love

10% of women have not had an orgasm

Sex after Babies

Half of teen women do not self pleasure.

and much more. Please download the episode right here: Women’s Anatomy of Arousal with Sheri Winston.

Music Request on Sexy in Vancity Radio

In Sexy in Vancity Radio on August 5, 2010 at 11:23 am

During my twenty-something stint, music got me out of bed in the morning. My roommates and I would stumble out of bed. Bleary-eyed, I would hit play on my cassette deck. “We Go Together” from the Grease Soundtrack filled our tiny basement suite. Giggling we would hug each other as we danced around. During the six-week stint I stayed there, music filled my days.

Nights were filled with music blasting from my car stereo. We would sing and move with the music as we drove from club to club. Life became a musical. Whenever I hear old songs, they propel memories into my mind. Good, bad, funny and sad memories seem filled with fondness. Perhaps that is one of the reasons I tend to start every episode of Sexy in Vancity with a throwback to the 80s – music to remember to.

The experience broadcasting live from VanPride 2010 inspired me. After spending the Pride Parade dancing and singing with CITR 101.9FM personalities such as Teddy Smooth, E-Rock, Duncan McHugh, Jason Colantonio, Marie Benard, and many more inspired me to expand my repertoire of music. For those of you who haven’t caught their shows on 101.9FM CITR, they are definitely worth listening to.

If you have sexy songs created by Vancouver musical artists that  you would like to hear on Sexy in Vancity Radio, send them to me. Like a school girl, I need to pull up my knee socks and fasten the buckles on my Mary Janes when it comes to learning about music. To give me a head start, my friend, Barb Snelgrove, Grand Marshall of VanPride2010 Parade suggested I give Destineak a listen.

I listened and I liked it. Hence I started last night’s show with their song Just the Music.

Women’s Anatomy of Arousal

In Sexy in Vancity Radio, Women's Sexuality, Womens Health on August 4, 2010 at 3:00 pm

“This one looks like a tropical plant,” Eugene Levy’s character in American Pie said as he examined the centerfold in a pornographic magazine.  I didn’t realize how true that statement is. Thanks to commercial photographer, Nick Karras’ book Petals, I was able to see just how different vulvas can be. Last September, Nick Karras chatted to me on Sexy in Vancity about how he took pictures of a former lover’s vulva to show her how beautiful she was. At first she was uncomfortable looking at the photos. When he printed the photos in black and white, it seemed to erase the embarrassment she felt. She realized how beautiful her vulva was and showed the pictures to a friend.

Shortly after this, he was approached by several of the women in a women’s group of sexual violence survivors. Many of the women asked if they could pose for him. Through this process, he photographed over 100 women’s vulvas and the subjects of the photography sessions found healing through the process. When they saw the photographs, they could look at their vulvas without shame or stigma. His journey and the opinions of several sex educators (including Betty Dodson and Linda Savage PHD) was documented in the 2008 Winner of the Sexual Intelligence Award Film Petals Journey into Self Discovery.  Last year, I saw the film during the Vancouver International Film Festival.

Towards the end of the film, the black and white photos revealed 48 photographs of vulvas. Each one did resemble a flower. Each one beautiful in its own right. Photograph after photograph paused for a brief moment on the screen. I sat in the dark watching each image different from the previous one.  This should be a prerequisite to anyone studying the female anatomy, I thought.  During the question and answer session after the film, Nick Karras mentioned that he was looking for models for a colour version of Petals geared towards university medical students.

Perhaps this should be a prerequisite to sex education in the school system. For some women, the only opportunity they have to see a vulva is if they hold a hand mirror at the exact perfect angle between their legs. How do we expect lovers of women to be able to give pleasure when we (ourselves) do not know what our anatomy is?

I am looking forward to chatting to celebrated sexuality teacher, Sheri Winston, CNM, RN, BSN, LMT about that on tonight’s show. Winston, author of Women’s Anatomy of Arousal Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure’s unique perspective is derived from decades of experience as a certified nurse-midwife, gynecology practitioner, registered nurse, holistic healer, childbirth educator, massage therapist, and student of the esoteric erotic arts. She is the founder and executive director of the Center for the Intimate Arts.

You can listen live at 101.9FM CITR or www.citr.ca at 10pm PST.

CITR Broadcasting Live at VanPride2010

In Events, Fashion on August 4, 2010 at 10:17 am

Headphones off, feather pink boa tossed aside, Raul Pacheco-Vega (@hummingbird604) and I waving to thousands of people who came out to celebrate VanPride2010! Photo by Mark Robins

 Yesterday”s post prompted queries of what my dress looked like. Thanks to Mark Robins from Gavancouver.net, there is evidence.

Yesterday I flicked through the wonderful moments Gay Vancouver.net captured in their photo album displayed on their site.

Readers, please add your links to online photos of the CITR float during VanPride2010 under the comments section.

Broadcasting Live: Van Pride 2010

In Events on August 3, 2010 at 3:05 pm
 ”What should I wear?” I wailed. I stared at my closet packed with clothes. Although I chatted to the Unstoppable Conni Smudge during my Wednesday Night show about what was “hot” and what was “not” for Vancouver Pride 2010, I still was unclear about what to wear.  Last year’s costume of space age Audrey Hepburn simply would not do.  It wasn’t every day that Ms Sexy in Vancity gets to broadcast live at Vancouver Pride on the CITR 101.9FM float.

The Unstoppable Connie Smudge chatted to Me on Wednesday's Edition of Sexy in Vancity about what's Hot and What's Not during VanPride 2010 Photo by Tyler Ingram 2010

CITR 101.9FM and Mint Records chose the colours teal and gold for dress code for the float. After much deliberation, I finally settled on a strapless white/gold form fitted dress and a Prade styled light pink feathered wrap. For a moment I considered wearing a pair of comfortable flip flops. Then I imagined Conni Smudge running through the crowd to jump up on the float to exchange microphones with me when we passed Denman and Robson where she would be giving her personal play by play of the parade. If Conni can run in six inch heals, so can I, I thought as I strapped my feet into a pair of gold, BCBG spikes.

For a moment, I wondered if I should have taken Conni up on her offer. She had offered to dress me up as Marilyn Monroe. Although the white dress would be fetching, the concept of wearing a wig under my black headphones did not appeal. Ruefully, I wondered how I would be able to secure my waist length hair under a wig. With growing anticipation, I jumped into my taxi.  I am no stranger to conducting live interviews. I play the getting to know you game every week during my 60 minute spot on CITR.  Without a webcam recording “control-booth-Caroline” in action, you will have to take my word that I rarely wear makeup when I come in to do the show. I was nervous about coordinating Olivia and French Connection’s Marie-Eve Dumalong - roaming reporters, the studio with The Synchronicity Radio’s  Marie Benard, and still smiling for everyone who came out to support pride.  

I was a virgin to partaking in the Pride Parade. I’ve always been a pride supporter from afar. Maybe it is because my brother came out as a teen.  During that period, he wanted nothing to do with his girly-girl sister. Over the years, I stopped asking if I could go with him to pride as he was worried I would embarrass him. Last year, I attended the parade as a spectator.  I spent most of the parade slouched over. Silly as it might seem, I still felt guilty attending the parade without my brother’s blessing.  

This was one of the reasons I offered to host the broadcast for CITR’s pride parade. I needed to come out! I wanted to show my support and the fact that I am proud that we live in a society where we can be proud of our sexuality. Although my brother has long since moved from Vancouver, that sense of guilt remained. Like an out of season coat, it needed to be disposed of. 

I took a deep breath and hoped that I would be able to do the broadcast okay. Crossing my fingers, I hopped out of the cab to start the journey. 

When I arrived at the float, Caba Radio’s Teddy Smooth,  E-Rock, Duncan and other CITR personalities were dancing to the music as they formed an assembly line to tie ribbons and lollipops to the helium balloons.  I wasn’t sure how I was going to conduct interviews with the blue gates set up separating the floats from the crowds. Thankfully, Raul Pacheco http://twitter.com/hummingbird604) was able to get through the crowd control.  

Raul Pacheco-Vega, one of the country’s top bloggers and one of UBC’s faculty members chatted with me about coming out in Vancouver AND in Mexico.  Raul, the youngest of five brothers came out in Vancouver first then in Mexico.  Mexico, a Catholic country may cause a young man concern in regards to coming out. Thankful, Raul’s family was incredibly supportive and loving. Raul’s advice for people was: ” There’s a lot online support in Vancouver for people are considering coming out GLBT (gay, lesbian, bisexual and trans).”  According to Raul, some key resources include Gayvancouver.net - very community oriented website. Number of magazines like Vrag, Pinq Magazine. Another key resource is qmunity resource centre.  Raul advised coming out at your own comfort. “You can come out first to your friends, then to your coworkers and whoever else you feel most comfortable with,” advised Raul.  

Sweetly smooth the day sailed along. Thanks to Marie Benard skillful engineering, we bounced gently from interview, to song, to roaming reporters. On location broadcast coordinator, Bronwyn brought people up to the float for me to interview. It was exciting to find out about how different organizations supported pride. Amnesty International wanted our listeners to know that there were places in the world where people are not able to celebrate Pride. Youth Co AIDS Society offers support and education for people under 30 years old living with HIV/AIDS, and Stop War talked about how they support pride. 

 One of my favourite Sexy in Vancity guests popped on the float, Sexual Savant Salon’s Kim Anami.  Her eyes shined as she spoke about how thrilled she was with the huge turn out. Thousands of people cheered as we practiced our “princess wave”.  When I asked her what she was up to (when she wasn’t a vision dancing on the CITR float in a long blue dress), she mentioned her multi-orgasmic couple workshop that she is hosting at Tart Boutique on Friday, August 6th. 

Vancouverites dressed up and down for VanPride2010. Photo by Tyler Ingram 2010

 As we curved around the corner at Denman and Robson, I heard my name shouted over the cheering. Conni Smudge who was emceeing the parade greeted the CITR 101.9FM and Mint Records float. As I looked across the street trying to see Conni, I realized that we would not be switching mikes that day. There were thousands and thousands of people cheering. 

Towards the end of the broadcast, I thanked Marie Benard. With the CITR show swap coming up, we had chatted about possibly co-hosting a show. Laughing we joked that we had a live run. As I hung up the phone and turned off the sound, I sat down on the edge of the float.  As I looked up at the sea of teal and gold dancers on our float, I smiled.  What a great way to celebrate Pride, I thought.  Playing the getting-to-know-you game had paid off. Before I even gathered my things to leave, my iphone informed me that I had a few new friend requests on facebook.  With fondness, I hit “accept.” Several of the CITR volunteers had added me. 

As we headed towards English Bay, a familiar face greeted me. Raul climbed back on the float. As Duncan from Duncan’s Donuts and Fine Mist sang and danced, Raul and I continued to wave at the crowd. What a great way to end the parade, I thought. With old friends and new friends I sat tall and proud.

* On a personal note, my brother helped me locate guests to interview via facebook chat for this year’s Vancouver Pride. I like to think he is proud of me too.

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